Finding Your Center During the Holidays

The holidays can certainly be joyful, but we all know they can be stressful as well. Even with strong family ties or traditions we cherish, the packed schedules, emotional expectations, and complicated dynamics can feel overwhelming. And that’s okay. Both joy and difficulty can exist at the same time. Recognizing this is the first step toward taking care of yourself this holiday season.

Here are some ways to navigate the season with steadiness, self-compassion, and connection.

1. Focus on What You Can Control

The holidays often feel hectic because so much is outside of our control. Start small: plan your schedule to include breaks, decide which events you can realistically attend, and give yourself permission to say no. Even small adjustments like taking a walk between gatherings can make the season feel much more manageable.

2. Set Boundaries

Boundaries aren’t barriers. They’re tools for staying connected while protecting your well-being. They can be as simple as saying: “I’ll join for dinner but leave afterward.”“I’d prefer not to discuss that topic today.”“I need a few minutes outside for a breather.”

Setting and communicating boundaries helps reduce stress, prevent conflict, and give you space to enjoy what matters most to you.

3. Create Your Own Traditions

You don’t have to follow every expected tradition. “Going home for the holidays” isn’t the only way to celebrate. Build celebrations that reflect your life today. Whether that’s cozy nights with loved ones or chosen family, volunteering in your community, personal rituals, or even a quiet evening with your favorite book, show, or movie, your traditions can be grounding, joyful, and uniquely yours.

4. Support Your Body and Brain

Sleep, eat regularly, and stay hydrated. Emotional stress can show up physically, so paying attention to your body matters. If the holidays bring up challenges with substance use, mental health, or anxiety, you are not alone in that, and reaching out is a sign of strength.

5. Stay Connected

Whether through family, chosen family, friends, or community spaces, connection matters. You don’t have to navigate the season alone. Reach out, check in, and share moments with people who make you feel safe and supported. We are all stronger together.

There is no “right way” to experience the holidays. Honor what feels real for you and practice caring for yourself and your well-being as we navigate this time of year that is complicated for many of us.